Anger – How do you take it?

What is your first reaction when you get really angry with someone or something?

1. Hit the person hard
2. Stop talking to that person
3. Insulting comments
4. Breaking whatever comes in your hand (which is most probably the reason of your anger)

All these above examples have one thing in common: They all end up hurting someone, be it the victim or even the person who is angry. In this sense, anger is something really negative.

Have we ever tried turning it into something positive?

Well before doing that we should really learn to control our own anger and not vent it so easily. If we really think about it, anger has nothing in negative. It’s our actions that are negative by hurting people.

What if we could use that anger turn it into something positive?

Let’s take anger as a form of energy from within us which is formed from our emotions. This is why our anger calms down the moment we vent our anger on the “victim” and is thus transferred to another painful form.

If we could control ourselves and kept it within us at that moment. we would have the time to calm ourselves down and also learn to forgive, hence, be able to use that energy for something more fruitful.

The question is how?

For example you get into a fight with your best friend who is being so stubborn and not trying to understand you.

If we just vent our anger out on him:

You would not talk to him for a long time (Let him go to hell…) We don’t care even if he gets into trouble.

The result will be breaking your friendship and thus hurting not only him but also yourself.

Second alternative:

The positive side. At most with just shout at him. And let him do as he wants cause it’s would be futile to try and explain to him. But always remain by his side because the moment he will get into trouble in case he did not listen to you, you are there to help him out and say (or you might not even feel the need to say it) “I told you so”. He might realize it himself that he was wrong and apologize to you. Who knows maybe even you were wrong, all you need to say is: “You were right”

So no one was hurt, and the friendship becomes stronger.

Have you ever tried to control your anger and able to make out a positive impact on the person?

Do you prefer to vent that anger immediately and get on with it?

Well it all depends on the situations, but it’s not always necessary to hurt someone out of anger especially when the person is close to us.

And yes keeping anger inside you does not mean to let it affect you mentally. It’s up to you to manage your anger well.

Best of luck managing your anger friends