Many in this world have fallen in love (or maybe seemed to have fallen in love) and when their heart is broken, their first reaction is that they will never fall in love again.
They begin to live their life alone with their heart filled with hatred or pain thus making it really difficult for them to accept someone else, just because of one person who might have deceived them or it really did not work out on the other side and the person realizes that the feeling is not the same as before.
Is this really fair towards yourself to refuse to love again?
It’s true that once you are heartbroken, it will seem difficult to risk your heart again. You will keep thinking about your past love and simply be scared to be hurt one more time. This does not mean that we will never fall in love again.
Most of us say that if ever you fall in love again, it will never be the same as your first love.
How sure can you be that what you think to be your first love was not actually an attraction, infatuation or illusion?
The main reason why first love is never the same again it’s because every first love is young. And the next time you fall in love again, you learn from your past mistakes and you have a mature love.
Well this does not mean that we should just go out and pretend to love as many people we want. This will be cheating yourself and the others as well.
If you come across someone who has really touched your heart and soul after your first love, it won’t really hurt to think whether that person really deserves your heart and when you are sure enough, go ahead and you can try to give yourself another chance as well as the one who has really been able to reach out your heart and touch it.
So never be scared to risk your heart again when you see someone who is really worth it. But yes be really careful before giving out your heart.
Be proud that you have loved, and not be ashamed of being betrayed because it’s not you who has betrayed…
True love will never fade with time
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5 comments
Yashvin
June 3, 2010 at 6:35 am (UTC 4) Link to this comment
I will say that love cannot be compared. People are different, Time is changing…
Once you got betrayed, you realise how cheap that “love” was and you won’t ever try to compare your new love with that bad experience.
How sure can you be that what you think to be your first love was not actually an attraction, infatuation or illusion?
hmm, It might actually be true love too and since people change, this triggers loads of factors which might affect the relationship.
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Pramod
June 3, 2010 at 7:54 am (UTC 4) Link to this comment
This is why I will say love does not have a definite meaning. It’s all how we give a meaning to it.
You mean to say that the meaning of the same love changes with time as the person changes? And what actually changes that person?
And you also said It might be true love. Still we are not sure if the first love is always the true love…
Kurt Avish
July 18, 2010 at 11:52 am (UTC 4) Link to this comment
Simple answer: No. But there is always a big BUT…
Pramod
July 18, 2010 at 1:36 pm (UTC 4) Link to this comment
BUT you won't ever love as you fell you in love for the first time?
Kurt Avish
August 12, 2010 at 5:14 pm (UTC 4) Link to this comment
No. In fact… I personally think that you can love the same much to the love you find after a first break up…or even a 2nd…or a 3rd…4th… well I hope no to 10th however lol..
Seriously you cannot say you love X more then Y etc. I tend to agree with Yashvin above, but still I will not call the first love or other break up..as cheap. At one time you can love someone really much..yet with circumstances someone might not continue the relation. Now if the person find another love… it is important not to COMPARE love.
It is build with time spent together. And also I think when someone break up… its better to keep only the good time spent together and forget the bad ones.
Well…now if someone is CHEATED then it is another story. Also I think the first love is never actually the one to last (yea there are some cases which do)… as a relationship needs experience and maturity which most couple do not have during their first relationship.
The majority goes through turbulence as they mature through it while some compromise and try to keep it.
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